To Attach or Not to Attach
What is non-attachment?
“Not being completely attached to material objects can help build a resilient mindset. The more one is focused on cultivating self-mastery, relationships and mindfulness, the less stress one tends to experience, as well as feeling more content in life.”
Do you stress over things you can’t control, are you burdened by an internal dialogue of stress, fear, guilt and obligation even when you know there’s nothing you can do? Understanding and practicing non-attachment may be one of the most beneficial things you can do.
Being Non-Attached
It’s the ability to detach yourself from things that control or that affect you in a way that is maladaptive to your wellbeing. It’s bettering your life, your self and modifying your thought processes to be more advantageous by learning to let go. It’s a path, not a single action.
Non-attachment doesn’t mean indifference or apathy. You can practice non-attachment and still feel love, passion, interest and excitement. It can help you embrace your connection to the people and the world around you. It allows you to set yourself free from what you cannot control or fix so you can spend more energy on focusing on what you can.
Benefits
A clearer mind, elevated mood, more mental space, less fear of change.
In relationships it can help you to avoid unhealthy or toxic codependent dynamics. No one has a flawless journey to letting go of attachments, so go easy on yourself! A large part of the process is using self compassion and allowing your thoughts to exist without allowing them to take over.
Practicing Non-Attachement
Letting go of what’s passed or what no longer exists in present moment and future anxieties. Moving through life without letting things, people or places have such a hold on you that you make fear based choices from a lower vibration.
No one is perfect, most of us have fixated on something in our lives that we can’t change, you can’t let losses define you, let yourself feel the grief that comes initially but don’t let it own you forever; other peoples’ actions, an insult, the loss of opportunity or a break-up. Truly believe that good things will come but also realize that they are already here and you are the creator of your personal reality. Mantras and self reflection/journaling are great ways to reflect further.
Embracing Change
There is nothing in this universe that stays the same. We are ever evolving beings that are programmed to fear the unknown (change). Once we surrender, trust and know that everything happens for the greater good of our personal evolution in this lifetime, we can live with a new sense of freedom. It’s important to not come to any conclusions that something is “good” or “bad” as we aren’t able to predict how it will shape our journey in the long run. ‘Unknown’ doesn’t have to have the connotation of something scary or bad, once we embrace it with Love, then we embrace change with love and can realty start enjoying the ride.
Own your Authenticity
Each and every one of us are unique individuals. Only by being our true authentic selves will we be able to attract our tribe and find our place in this world. By being true to ourselves we align with what’s true for us. Less focus on how we appear to be, more focus on who we really are.
Your Thoughts Shape your Reality
Become aware of your thoughts and thought patterns. Your unconscious thoughts become your personal reality. The first step to shifting your thoughts into more positive ones, is awareness. Focus on what you enjoy and have gratitude for what you already have more then what you lack and want, this will help re-train your brain and thought habits.
Self Accountability
Accept responsibility for your own happiness AND unhappiness as nothing external can make you happy, it is purely an inside job ;)
The idea of letting go can seem scary as you may feel like you’re letting go of your control but the irony is that what you try to control only controls you. Awaken the power within you, elevate your thoughts, shift your reality and co-create your life along with the higher power of the Universe.